From the comments I see, I think there is a misunderstanding about the difference between severe childhood trauma and some of the more common experiences that are simply painful.

For more information about adverse childhood experiences, I suggest you take the test. Click on the big blue box on the link below.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-mean